"Good morning.
I state that I do not believe in this kind of thing (find a soul mate on the net), especially after what has happened to me in the past, however I have looked at your site anyway and I have seen that you are not one of the many chats that are on the internet, so I want to ask you a question.
I said I don't believe because several years ago, I tried to find a serious person with whom I wanted to have a real family, and maybe have children.
I live alone, but I have a married sister with three children, and you don't know how much I envy her ... So I started looking on the internet.
Casually, I happened upon a dating site, which was actually a chat, and I thought it was a good way to get to know some girl and be able to find the right one for me.
I met ...., a beautiful Thai girl, she too looking for a man to marry, I saw her photos, and we started an acquaintance on that chat, I sent her my photos, she did the same, in short, yes it was created a nice feeling between us.
We continued like this for several months, every day as soon as I got back from work I turned on the computer and was "virtually" together with her ...
I really believed that she was the woman I was looking for, she too told me to have a deep feeling towards me, then one day, on the occasion of her birthday, she told me that she would have liked so much to have a computer, of the portable type, that it would have been useful for her job, but that with his meager salary could not be bought...
So I didn't think twice and, with a certain naivety I must say, I sent her the money to buy this computer.
After that, on a more or less regular basis,
began to tell me about her and her family's problems, which in reality always hid a request for money: the seriously ill sister who needed expensive treatment that she could not afford, the mother who had lost all her teeth and needed dentures (I know it makes you laugh but it is so, I also sent her the money for the purchase of the dentures), etc.
She told me that I, who by now had become her man, it was right that I also take care of her family, and I, who believed in her feelings for me, helped her for over a year ...
Until one day I succeed to accumulate quite a few days off and I can finally go to Thailand to meet her, and spend a month with her.
I find a flight to Bangkok and in the evening I immediately tell her about my upcoming trip, so I ask her to give me her contact details, and to wait for me on the day of arrival at the exit of the Bangkok airport.
And what happens? She no longer answers me, the days go by, but total silence.
She seems to have vanished into thin air ... I try to contact her in every way (anyway, always through that chat where we met), but to no avail.
I see on the chat that she is still there, because she communicates with other chat users, but to me she doesn't answer anymore ... Why? What is happened?
But all my attempts are useless, so much so that I then lose all hope and leave definitely that chat ...
In short, after having lost a year of my life and a lot of money (several hundred euros between gifts and various aids) behind this woman, I find myself back to square one.
And I was lucky because this happened before I bought the plane ticket, because sorry if I tell you, I don't care much about Thailand,I would have gone there just to get to know that woman....
In short, I got quite a rip off.
But that's not all, unfortunately...
After this experience, I always thought of having made a mistake myself to attend a "free" chat, so, the following year, being still single, I start looking again, and this time I sign up for a paid "professional" chat, which offered safe guarantees on the honesty of women registered.
Here I know several women, with one in particular, the relationship goes well, she seems to me a really honest woman and interested in me. She lives in Bangkok, she works there, she too is looking for her soul mate.
I start a good relationship with her, there is complicity, harmony, a really good feeling is established.
This time, I want to make sure she is a real woman, that she really exists (while the other, now I think she didn't even really exist, who knows who was behind those photos she sent me?), So one day I tell her that I am organizing a trip to Bangkok, which in a short time I will finally be there, to really live with her, so I ask her if she can wait for me upon my arrival, at the exit of the airport.
And she replies me with great enthusiasm, she too can't wait to hug me, and immediately gives me her phone number.
So, we start talking to each other on the phone too, at which point I really organize the trip to Thailand, and after less than two months I'm already flying to Bangkok, happy and excited as a child.
But there is immediately a bitter surprise: at the exit of the airport, there is no one waiting for me!
I try to call her on the phone, but in Thailand my cell phone doesn't work ... So I take a taxi and go to the hotel I had booked.
The next day I buy a phone sim from your country and call her.
She apologizes, tells me she had been very busy at work, and adds that as soon as she has a free moment, we 'll can meet ... Bho! And all the feeling she had for me, where did it go?
Anyway, I wait patiently closed in my hotel room, for her to find some free time for me, for us...
Days go by, and despite all the phone calls I make to her, the text messages I send her, this meeting does not take place, she is always overworked, and continues to apologize ...
and to think that I was there just to get to know her, to finally be able to start a real relationship (among other things, she doesn't even tell me where she works or where she lives, I only have her phone number)...
Days go by, and when there are two days left before the date of my return trip, after my umpteenth, heartfelt phone call, we are finally able to organize a meeting.
I see her coming, I see her as she really is, a little different from the photos, however at that moment I didn't care much about her physical appearance, for me it was important that she was finally there with me.
She begins to apologize for everything, but I tell her that I don't care, because I made that trip just for her, because I have a deep feeling for her and I want to start a true, serious and honest relationship with her ...
In response, she tells me that she is sorry that I did all that trip just for her, because in reality she had met another man on that chat (she also told me that he was a German) and that they were now together!
And she tells me that I can find another girl, since I'm already there !!! Crazy ... Absolutely crazy ....
I go home with death inside me, I don't know if you can only imagine my state of mind.
Other months thrown to the wind, more money flown away, a 20,000 km journey .... all useless, all for nothing!
And so, after this umpteenth disappointment, I definitively said enough with chats!
and with virtual meetings in general...
So, now I ask you that question: I read on your site that, in case the man has been "scammed" by dating sites or marriage agencies, you offer him a discount on your service. Does it apply to me too?
Even though I only attended chats, I feel somehow cheated ...
I conclude by thanking you in any case for having had the patience to read this letter, more than anything else an outlet for my disappointments with the chats ... S. " |
